Motivation,  Self Talk

How To Control Your Emotions To Make 2020 The Best Ever!


I’m a writer, so, sigh. I’m naturally emotional. You too?
With writer emotions we are empathetic, we’re expressive and we’re joyous. But left unchecked, they are often our worst enemy when it comes to productivity. Our “I don’t feel like it” could be laziness in a soft, squishy package. Our creativity could be fear hiding behind a project that keeps us from facing responsibility. Our procrastination could be more than a quirk, it could be a lack of confidence. Our friends and family may be encouraging our lack of self-discipline because they don’t want change. Is yours like that? I believe one of the main reasons why we never finish projects is because we’ve never made the toddler in us grow up. We’ve never yanked the reins of our daily tasks out of the hands of our emotions.
We may allow our emotions to control us when:
1. We don’t have any clear goals. The idea of keeping our lives in order feels overwhelming. It’s hard and we don’t know where to start. It’s easier to let our emotions react to the bigness of the task. It’s easier to put it off. Ask yourself: am I allowing my lack of a plan in the way I manage my time to be my excuse? Would having a plan, with small measurable goals make a difference? (We’re addressing this issue next week! Stay tuned!) 

2. We’ve failed before and it’s easier to avoid trying again. It’s okay to be afraid of failing especially when the sting of failure is fresh. We may have set many resolutions every year, only to fail by Martin Luther King Day. We’re all afraid. The most successful among us have learned to banish the fears to the back seat and let determination take the wheel. Few of us have the ability to stop the car and kick the fears out altogether. Ask yourself: am I allowing my fear of failure to keep me from trying again? Consider journaling about this: “I am afraid to start pursuing my dreams because ….” 

3. We don’t have the support of the people around us. Lazy, unproductive habits are contagious. If you are close to people who drag you into their Hulu watching habits, you may find any change to be difficult. Ask yourself: Am I allowing the habits of others to keep me from productivity? Am I finding it easier to follow poor examples of self-discipline than good decisions for me?

4. We’ve let our circumstances define our dreams. We may have too many kids. We may have too small of a house. We may be facing a financial crisis. Those are challenges, no doubt, but if we allow the challenges to be bigger than our vision, then we’ll never do anything. Ask yourself: Is their a challenge in my life that I use as an excuse to avoid self-discipline? Am I waiting for the perfect circumstance to get my life in order? Have I adopted it’s just too hard right now, so why try attitude? 
As you edge into 2020, consider how you make your decisions. Do you make them based only on your emotions? Do you often find excuses? Do you allow your “tiredness” to keep you from following your dreams?

It’s a new year and your dreams are worth it!  

Katharine Grubb is an author, poet, homeschooling mother, camping enthusiast, bread-baker, and believer in working in small increments of time. She leads 10 Minute Novelists, an international Facebook group of time-crunched writers. She lives with her family in Massachusetts.