• Craft,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    Take 5 Friday: Five Ways to Speak More Kindly to Your Writer Self

    As writers, we spend a lot of time in our own heads, trying to coax words onto the page. Then, once the words get there, we spend a lot of time trying to reshape them to clarify our ideas. It’s a process filled with self-esteem peril. We end up criticizing ourselves for not working hard enough, not working often enough, not working in the right way, or not working on the right thing. Or, we get frustrated with the words we did produce, wondering why we can’t match the ideal we had in our heads.  There’s an awful lot of focus on what we did ‘wrong,’ or on what is…

  • Craft,  Discipline,  Motivation

    Take 5 Friday: Five Gentle Steps To Coax Yourself To Write

    Even if you have an excellent writing practice with well-established routines, there will still be times when you just can’t bring yourself to the page. Sometimes, that’s a sign of burnout or that you just need a rest. If that’s the case for you, do what you can to get the rest that you need. But, if this is regular old garden-variety reluctance, a slight grumpy sort of resistance, or just a toddleresque ‘I don’t wanna’ –  it might be time for some gentle coaxing. You don’t need to be hard on yourself, this isn’t a time for being cruel in the name of self-discipline.  This is an opportunity to…

  • Craft,  Discipline,  Motivation,  Organization,  Time Management

    Take 5 Friday: Five Steps To Make August a Great Writing Month

    August can be a strange month. Either your kids are heading back to school or you are making plans for them to head back (and this year, that might all be up in the air.)  Or maybe you are finally getting some vacation time.  Perhaps you are trying to balance a busy work day and summer fun in the evenings and on the weekends.  No matter what your August looks like, with some planning, you can help make it into a great month for your writing. Here are 5 steps to help guide your writing plans. Identify how much time you’ll have to write. A lot of the time, we…

  • Discipline,  Motivation

    Creating Habit Hop-Ons

    Recently I pulled a muscle in my knee that was serious enough that I required physical therapy for a few weeks. At the first visit, my therapist gave me a list of stretching exercises that would help my knee, thigh, and other leg muscles get stronger. I was to do them twice a day, every day, indefinitely.  It is not fun to be given a new list of things to do, but I really wanted my knee to feel better. I had no choice. I had to find a way to incorporate these exercises into my daily routine so that I wouldn’t leave them to the end of the day. …

  • Motivation,  Self Talk

    Does Luck Have Anything To Do With Writing Success?

    How much does luck really play in our writing careers? I can say that I have had my share of luck. But in the same breath, I can say that I've worked my butt off and that all the good that happened to me came because of my own work. And I'm one of those creatures who believes that my Maker could have something to do with it too.

  • Motivation,  Self Talk

    Five Self-Lies That Guarantee Failure

    I spent decades of my life saying negative things to myself. As a result, I was unhappy and unsuccessful in nearly everything I did. It wasn’t until I recognized what I was doing, started seeing a therapist, and made the conscious effort to speak to myself with kindness, that things changed for me.