| James Clear said this in his book Atomic Habits (p.117) “One of the most effective things you can do to build better habits is to join a culture where your desired behavior is the normal behavior. New habits seem achievable when you see others doing them every day. “|
One of the biggest mistakes writers (actually ALL human beings make) is that they are not engaged in some sort of community. Left to ourselves, we are do not make good choices, we do not embrace discipline, and we do not meet our goals. Left to ourselves we often succumb to our fears.
How much better it would be if you knew you could work alongside others, share the writing journey, encourage one another, and be friends!
Think about the times in your life when you were the most successful:
Were you surrounded by people who supported you?
Did you learn from others who shared your goals?
Were others there for you when you succeeded and when you failed?
Do. That. Again.
How? (There will be a future blog post on how to get past your fears.) But here are some ways to engage with others:
-Join 10 Minute Novelists on Facebook (and contribute!)
-Check your local library for events
– Investigate writing meet-ups
-Join an organization like Romance Writers of America, American Christian Fiction Writers, or any other in your genre.
-Follow hashtags on Twitter and Instagram and engage positively.
-Seek out organizations in your local community, like business associations, churches, or clubs so that you can meet people. (If for no other reason: observe and write about them!)
Also? You are more than just a writer: find other groups that share your interests, abilities, or conditions.
I personally believe that the lonely writer is the writer who is in the most danger of succumbing to self-destructive behaviors, who won’t see their creative goals met, and who will fall into despair. I honestly believe that belonging to a community of some kind is more important than a daily writing habit for your future success, not just at writing, but at life altogether.
He continues on p. 118, “Nothing sustains motivation better than belonging to the tribe. It transforms a personal quest into a shared one.”
One of the most effective things you can do for yourself is to find a tribe. Set your timer for 10 minutes and make a list of places you can investigate.
In the comments below tell me what you did? I’ll hold you accountable to check them out!