• Motivation,  Self Talk,  Uncategorized

    Dealing with the Impostor Syndrome

    by Joanna Maciejewska Being a writer comes with a huge array of insecurities, from doubting our ideas to confidence in putting one’s commas in the right place. Writer’s impostor syndrome is one of them. Nearly every writer I talked to or seen speaking online, admits to suffering from it or had suffered from it in the past. What is an impostor syndrome? “Impostor syndrome” is a mindset when you doubt your accomplishments or other people’s praises, accompanied by the fear that any moment now you’ll be exposed by people as a “fraud”. It feeds on writers’ other insecurities, their anxiety, stress, uncertainty, among other things. There’s no rule of when…

  • Motivation,  Self Talk,  Time Management,  Uncategorized

    When You Shouldn’t be Writing

    by Joanna Maciejewska You have probably seen those funny memes where cartoon characters or famous actors tell you that YOU SHOULD BE WRITING. Maybe you snicker at them. Or maybe they’re poking at your feeling of guilt, because if you see them… you’re clearly not writing. Most of the times, they serve as a reminder or a motivator, because you should be writing. But what if there are times when you shouldn’t? Procrastination as a symptom It seems that no one is so effective at procrastination as a writer is. From social media dubbed as “building one platform” to binging series on Netflix boldly renamed to “research”, writers tend to…

  • Motivation,  Self Talk,  Uncategorized

    Love Your Writing: a Writer’s Self-care

    by Joanna Maciejewska From my experience, people who claim writing is easy either haven’t written anything yet or don’t treat their writing seriously. Sure, the process of transferring one’s thoughts to paper or digital document can be extremely simple… Making them flow, engage the reader, and evoke emotions isn’t. Getting one’s story right might bring about frustration, depression, self-doubt, and obesity when the former are remedied with cake. That’s why writers need to remember about self-care, and one of the basic ways is to love your writing. Love your writing, love your job Unless you’re writing as a hobby, only when you feel like it, you’re likely to be treating…

  • Motivation

    10 Ways To Lift Yourself Out of That Writing Funk

        Being in a funk comes with the writing territory. Because writers are already of the sensitive, angsty type, we are the first to fall into a depressive funk. At best, these funks slow us down and sap our motivation. At their worst, the blues can paralyze your creativity completely. You could be so down you pick up self-destructive behaviors. (Don’t do that! Addiction is never flattering!) I know I’ve sat down with my word count and my work-in-progress looming wanted it to go away.    What should you do instead if you’re feeling a little down? Take a self care inventory. Are you getting enough sleep? Have you eaten…

  • #MondayBlogs,  Discipline,  Perils of a Mom Writer,  Self Talk

    Top 10 Ways To Beat Insecurity (At Least Temporarily!)

    We are insecure for a lot of reasons. We’re insecure because we probably have artistic temperaments that makes us feel deeply. We overthink and over analyze. We find it’s easier to dwell on what it negative in our life rather than what is positive. We may have lived in environments in which confidence and boldness was discouraged and despair was fertilized with lies and fear. We may lack skills. We may fear failure. We may long for approval and we know it’s hard to achieve it anywhere, much less in this field. We’ve been burned before. The last person who read our work was mean or hateful or didn’t get…

  • Inspiration,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    Top 10 Effective Ways I Deal With My Evil Inner Critic

    by Katharine Grubb, 10 Minute Novelist In my writing life, my inner critic is the single greatest threat to my success. My inner critic blames me for things that go wrong. My inner critic calls me names like stupid and loser. My inner critic compares me to others and finds me wanting. My inner critic sets impossible standards of perfection. My inner critic tells me that if I’m not the best, then I’m nothing. My inner critic beats me up for the smallest mistake. My inner critic keeps track of my failures and shortcomings. My inner critic exaggerates my weaknesses. My inner critic threatens to withhold love. My inner critic…

  • #Top10Tuesday,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    Top Ten Things You Could Be Saying To Yourself That Will Guarantee Your Failure As A Writer by Katharine Grubb, 10 Minute Novelist

    I spend DECADES of my life saying negative things to myself. Slowly, I’m addressing them one by one, changing what I say and taking positive steps (like NOT buying a box of donuts to eat in one sitting) to make my life better and my soul happier. Below I have a list of the top ten things wannabe writers say to themselves that keep them stuck in failure. If you are saying any of these things to yourself, then you will, most certainly fail. The reason? This negative self talk is a paralyzer. It fosters inaction. The antidote is two fold: say positive things and take baby steps out. 1.…

  • Beautiful Words,  Craft

    Top 10 Questions To Ask Others and Avoid Being Labeled Another Emily Dickinson by Katharine Grubb, 10 Minute Novelists

    If you are a writer, then it is likely that you prefer to be isolated from the rest of the world. You spend your days thinking up great stories, making them as perfect as you possibly can. You may create that ideal lover, that ideal setting or that ideal story that you believe is the only story worth telling, at least for now. You may often be so engrossed in the creation of your little world that you forget that when the story is over, you may have to share it. And that thought makes you want to pretend you’re Emily Dickinson. Emily Dickinson was an American poet who lived…

  • Marketing,  Observation

    Top 10 Reasons You May Hate Marketing And What You Can Do About It by Katharine Grubb, 10 Minute Novelists

    If I weren’t a writer and mother of five, I’d go into psychology or social work and listen to people. Oh, I know it’s not all fun and games, like what I saw on The Bob Newhart show in the ’70’s, and from what I understand there’s a whole lotta of schoolin’ to go to, but I like thinking about what people are thinking about. It just could be fun! (And if you really love good situation comedy, click here to watch the pilot episode of The Bob Newhart Show.)  Until I decide to take the plunge and become a shrink, I’ll satisfy myself with addressing the problem that some…

  • Discipline,  Self Talk,  Writing Prompt

    Top Ten Ways To Deal With Writer’s Block by Katharine Grubb, 10 Minute Novelist

    Have you fought with writer’s block? It sucks, doesn’t it? Writer’s block is that state when there seems to be no inspiration. Writer’s block is when you wrestle back and forth in your confidence to create and still come up with nothing. Writer’s block is the realization that you have no ideas. Writer’s block is a searching for new words or new ideas and putting only dull words on the paper. Writer’s block can be dangerous in that we start believing that we’ll never have a good story again. Writer’s block is frustrating and maddening. Writer’s block can be blamed on our muse ignoring us, on our chest cold, on…

  • Discipline,  Inspiration,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    10 Destructive, Cowardly Lies I Had To Discard So I Could Become A Writer

    This is one of my favorite blog posts. I’m bringing it back from 2014 because I think we could all use a fresh reminder!  We don’t get in this business to be comfortable. We get in this business because the drive to create is bigger than the drive to be accepted. It takes guts and courage to throw your words to the world. And if lies are keeping you back, then you need to put them in the toilet with the rest of the ca-ca in your life.  I’ve overcome a lot of lies to get where I am today. That alone makes me a success. Not sales, not followers…

  • #MondayBlogs,  Perils of a Mom Writer,  Uncategorized

    Top Ten Things To Do If You Feel Burned Out As A Writer

    My 2015 was full. I released three books. I spoke two times. I attended four live book selling events. I launched a podcast. I was featured on three other podcasts. I wrote more than 365,000 words (that averaged 1000 words a day).  I was successful in Nanowrimo, writing my 50,000 words. I launched my weekly encouraging newsletter. I also took on a part-time job as a homeschooling tutor. I did all this while maintaining my household, hosting two chats a week, homeschooling my five kids and baking my bread from scratch. This all looks very impressive until you pull the curtain back and see the truth: I was a nervous…

  • Motivation,  Nanowrimo,  Work-In-Progress

    Top Eight Signs You May Be Doing Nanowrimo All Wrong

    Is it really November? Is it really time to start that non-stop frenzy that requires 50,000 words in 30 days? It is! Congratulations to all of you who are attempting it this year! And to those of you who have tried, get discouraged and possibly think you are on the road to failure, just consider this:  you may be doing it wrong.  1. You think every word you write is golden. Um, your nano project is a first draft. Please, for the love of all that’s publishable, type this sentence ten times —> MY NANO PROJECT IS A FIRST DRAFT. The solution? Just plan on doing some major rewrites, revisions…

  • #MondayBlogs,  Self Talk

    Why I Stopped Journaling And How It’s Made Me Happier and Healthier

    Once, a long time ago, I thought that my journals had magical powers. Journals, were, since I had started writing in one at age 14, a place were all my feels (and believe me, I had a lot of feels) were safe. My journals were a place that I could take out my feels.  I could analyze them. I could ruminate on them. I took each thought as if it were a pebble from a pocket run my fingers across its jagged edges. With a journal you can go back and remember pain. I would analyze events and observations the way an astronomer analyzes the stars. I wanted clarity perhaps, or…