• Inspiration,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    Top 10 Effective Ways I Deal With My Evil Inner Critic

    by Katharine Grubb, 10 Minute Novelist In my writing life, my inner critic is the single greatest threat to my success. My inner critic blames me for things that go wrong. My inner critic calls me names like stupid and loser. My inner critic compares me to others and finds me wanting. My inner critic sets impossible standards of perfection. My inner critic tells me that if I’m not the best, then I’m nothing. My inner critic beats me up for the smallest mistake. My inner critic keeps track of my failures and shortcomings. My inner critic exaggerates my weaknesses. My inner critic threatens to withhold love. My inner critic…

  • #Top10Tuesday,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    Top Ten Things You Could Be Saying To Yourself That Will Guarantee Your Failure As A Writer by Katharine Grubb, 10 Minute Novelist

    I spend DECADES of my life saying negative things to myself. Slowly, I’m addressing them one by one, changing what I say and taking positive steps (like NOT buying a box of donuts to eat in one sitting) to make my life better and my soul happier. Below I have a list of the top ten things wannabe writers say to themselves that keep them stuck in failure. If you are saying any of these things to yourself, then you will, most certainly fail. The reason? This negative self talk is a paralyzer. It fosters inaction. The antidote is two fold: say positive things and take baby steps out. 1.…

  • Discipline,  Motivation

    Top 10 Things I Can Do To Build Up My Confidence – By Katharine Grubb, 10 Minute Novelist

    I’m not in a very good place to write about confidence. I’m in a place where my expectations of what could have been are paralyzing my current choices. But if I’m going to go any further in what I do as a writer, I need to get over myself and grow in confidence.  Today I have to return to the most important element in my writer’s toolbox: confidence. I have lots of tools there that are important. Grammar is important. Storytelling is important. Connections are important. Reviews are important. But the most important thing of all is self-confidence. I have to believe, at least most of the time, that my…

  • Discipline,  Self Talk,  Writing Prompt

    Top Ten Ways To Deal With Writer’s Block by Katharine Grubb, 10 Minute Novelist

    Have you fought with writer’s block? It sucks, doesn’t it? Writer’s block is that state when there seems to be no inspiration. Writer’s block is when you wrestle back and forth in your confidence to create and still come up with nothing. Writer’s block is the realization that you have no ideas. Writer’s block is a searching for new words or new ideas and putting only dull words on the paper. Writer’s block can be dangerous in that we start believing that we’ll never have a good story again. Writer’s block is frustrating and maddening. Writer’s block can be blamed on our muse ignoring us, on our chest cold, on…

  • #MondayBlogs,  Perils of a Mom Writer,  Uncategorized

    Top Ten Things To Do If You Feel Burned Out As A Writer

    My 2015 was full. I released three books. I spoke two times. I attended four live book selling events. I launched a podcast. I was featured on three other podcasts. I wrote more than 365,000 words (that averaged 1000 words a day).  I was successful in Nanowrimo, writing my 50,000 words. I launched my weekly encouraging newsletter. I also took on a part-time job as a homeschooling tutor. I did all this while maintaining my household, hosting two chats a week, homeschooling my five kids and baking my bread from scratch. This all looks very impressive until you pull the curtain back and see the truth: I was a nervous…

  • #MondayBlogs,  Self Talk

    Why I Stopped Journaling And How It’s Made Me Happier and Healthier

    Once, a long time ago, I thought that my journals had magical powers. Journals, were, since I had started writing in one at age 14, a place were all my feels (and believe me, I had a lot of feels) were safe. My journals were a place that I could take out my feels.  I could analyze them. I could ruminate on them. I took each thought as if it were a pebble from a pocket run my fingers across its jagged edges. With a journal you can go back and remember pain. I would analyze events and observations the way an astronomer analyzes the stars. I wanted clarity perhaps, or…

  • #MondayBlogs,  Beautiful Words,  Inspiration

    Who Are We? A Existential Rambling From A Novelist Who Should Probably Know Better

    Who are we? What is our identity? These are big questions that haven’t been fully answered by the wisest men. But I’d like to suggest that we are more than our genders, more than our hobbies, more than our avatars, more than our homes, more than our children, more than our possessions. I ask this because I have always struggled with identity. I spent a good part of my childhood fighting for attention, fighting for reassurance, fighting for comfort, for safety, for aspirations, for acceptance that exactly who I am is enough. That fight lasted way too long and the addition of titles like wife and mother just made fight…

  • #MondayBlogs,  Inspiration,  Motivation

    What’s Most Important For Writers? Confidence. If You Don’t Have This, You Might As Well Forget It.

    I was asked recently what the most important thing was for writers. There is a lot that is important. Grammar is important. Storytelling is important. Connections are important. Reviews are important. But the most important thing of all is self-confidence.      Skills can be taught. Talent can be nurtured. But you have to believe that your dreams are worth pursuing. You have to sit and take stock of every lie that has ever been told to you about who you are and what you want and do something with it. No one can do this for you. You can outsource web design, developmental editing, proofreading and tweeting, but you can’t…

  • Motivation,  Uncategorized

    Nine Questions To Ask If Writers’ Block Has You By The Throat

    You can’t even. You just can’t even. Sometimes the words aren’t there. The ideas are weak and feeble. Your fingers grow numb waiting on a decent thought from your brain. There’s a problem and you can’t quite figure out what it is or why you’re blocked. I’ve been there. And I’ve learned that a little self introspection sometimes is enough to get to the bottom of the problem. Are you blocked because you are emotionally damaged by your project?  Be honest. Not every writing project is a barrel of laughs. Some, like term papers and college essays are kinda important and you need to plow through. Some though, we’ve signed…

  • #MondayBlogs,  Inspiration,  Self Talk

    Why I Picture My Inner Critic As An Evil Disney Sidekick (And How I Take Him To The Woodshed)

    Ursula the Sea Witch has two eels named Flotsam and Jetsam. Gaston has the cleverly named Le Fou. Aladdin‘s Jafar has that parrot, Iago, who I really  wanted to punch in the mouth and Scar, from The Lion King had three goofy hyenas. My point? All villains have henchmen. This isn’t a post about how to create great sidekicks for your villains, that may or may not be cute as a button and who may or may not break out into song at a moment’s notice. The henchman I’m referring to is far darker and far destructive than anything Disney could create. It could even be Hitchcockian or Wes Craven-ish. I’m talking…

  • #Top10Tuesday,  Marketing

    #Top10Tuesday Top 10 Ways To Invest In Yourself (And What To Avoid) From 10 Minute Novelists

      Great artists need great tools. If we are going to be great in our art, we need to equip ourselves, and spend a little money doing it.  I’m as frugal as the next person. In fact, I’m kind of a skinflint. I will come up with a million ways from Saturday to get out of spending money. Some of my ideas are practical, like shopping at thrift stores for growing kids but some are a little ridiculous, like how I decided that instead of going to a writers conference, I’d just watch all the writing videos on YouTube. If I’m going to spend money, especially on my art, I’d…

  • Discipline,  Revising and Editing

    Editing. Is It More Important Than The Writing? Hell, Yes! A Guest Post by Jennifer Senhaji

    Writers, like all artists, are a creative bunch. There are some that are meticulous about structure and form. There are some that fly by the seat of their pants on the winds of inspiration. Both make good writers. Editing, proper and professional editing, make great writers. You may be thinking you’ve heard this before. You know you have to edit. You know not to rush to publish. You’ve read enough poorly or unedited books by now to know the value of editing. But I’m here to tell you that’s just the tip of the publishing iceberg. You can have the most fantastic, most original, next Pulitzer Prize winning novel sitting…

  • Community,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    #Top Ten Ways To Beat Insecurity As A Writer (At Least Temporarily) By Katharine Grubb

      We are insecure for a lot of reasons. We’re insecure because we probably have artistic temperaments that makes us feel deeply. We overthink and over analyze. We find it’s easier to dwell on what it negative in our life rather than what is positive. We may have lived in environments in which confidence and boldness was discouraged and despair was fertilized with lies and fear. We may lack skills. We may fear failure. We may long for approval and we know it’s hard to achieve it anywhere, much less in this field. We’ve been burned before. The last person who read our work was mean or hateful or didn’t…

  • #WhyIWrite

    Why I Write: A Series From The Authors Of 10 Minute Novelists Featuring Melissa Graham

    From Melissa Graham: About 10 years ago, I was in a very bad place. I was young, married to one of the most selfish beings I’ve ever met, and had two very young children. I’d lost my home, my possessions– including a car, which is an absolute necessity in this city– my security, my confidence, my independence and, worst of all, my identity. Barely into my twenties, all I had to my name was the love for my babies and the pity of my family. While my children and I were stuck in my parents’ house, their father was absent, doing whatever he did to pass the time, except when…