• Community,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    #Top Ten Ways To Beat Insecurity As A Writer (At Least Temporarily) By Katharine Grubb

      We are insecure for a lot of reasons. We’re insecure because we probably have artistic temperaments that makes us feel deeply. We overthink and over analyze. We find it’s easier to dwell on what it negative in our life rather than what is positive. We may have lived in environments in which confidence and boldness was discouraged and despair was fertilized with lies and fear. We may lack skills. We may fear failure. We may long for approval and we know it’s hard to achieve it anywhere, much less in this field. We’ve been burned before. The last person who read our work was mean or hateful or didn’t…

  • #MagicalMarketing,  #SellingMySoul,  Community,  Self Talk

    The Real Reasons You May Hate Marketing And What You Can Do About It

      The reasons you hate marketing may have to do with real fears and anxieties. But you can overcome them.  You poor, poor writers. You pour your heart and soul into your books. You create these magical worlds, these vibrant, three dimensional characters, these intricate plots, these thrilling stories that culminate in an figurative or literal explosion of action and dialogue that leaves your readers breathless, weepy and ready to plunk down more dough for the next installment. And if your reader is going to read it, you have get it in front of the public eye. The truth? We’d rather not let it be seen. We’d rather hide behind our computer…

  • #MagicalMarketing,  #SellingMySoul,  Marketing,  Publishing,  Self Talk,  Self-Publishing

    Top 10 Signs You Aren’t Ready To Market Your Book

        For the last two-ish years, I’ve had books to sell. I’ve learned a lot about, but certainly not everything, about marketing. I’ve made plenty of mistakes. I think a good marketing author is always prepared to talk about their books, but timing is everything. You may not be ready to market. These are the top 10 signs you need to put your marketing plan on hold for a little while. 1. Your book may not be that good. Do not assume that because you got it on paper that it deserves to have readers. If you have put shoddy work on the marketplace you are being disrespectful of…

  • Perils of a Mom Writer,  Self Talk,  What 10 Minute Novelists Means To Me

    What It Means To Be A 10 Minute Novelist

    A 10 Minute Novelist is a time-crunched writer with big, big dreams. I’ve been a 10 Minute Novelist for nine years now. Despite having five children, homeschooling, baking my own bread and doing ridiculous amounts of laundry, I know what being a 10 Minute Novelist means.  You Don’t Have High Expectations If you had high expectations, then you’d be in a cabin in the woods or have hours to yourself or even a locked door. Nope. You’re a 10 Minute Novelist. That means that you get what writing time you can, when you can.   Your Daily Results Are Messy  While you try to keep the story straight with all…

  • #Top10Tuesday,  Self Talk

    #Top10Tuesday Top Ten Things You Should Be Saying To Yourself That Will Help Make You More Successful

    In February, I posted, Top 10 Things You Could Be Saying To Yourself That Will Guarantee Your Failure As A Writer  Today I want to do the opposite! 1. Everybody Makes Mistakes.  This is huge! You need to be reminded that every successful writer has a team behind them of editors, agents and publishers that help them make their book the best it can be. Don’t freak out over the errors in your manuscript. Just fix them and move on! 2. Tomorrow Is Another Day. Plan on making every single day the best you can to pursue your goals, but be realistic. Some days, you’re not going to get your words in,…

  • Inspiration,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    What Happened When I Stopped Complaining

    This month I’ve featured a lot of articles on “Love Your Reader, Love Your Art, Love Yourself” and today I think my last post on that theme fits it nicely. I grew up in a household that was lead by people who had nothing nice to say. If the sky was blue, they’d find a cloud somewhere. If we found a dollar on the sidewalk, then it wouldn’t be enough to make a difference. If we got the day off from work, it wouldn’t have been told early enough to make the time useful. Everything was insufficient, faulty or stupid. It wasn’t until just recently that I realized how that…

  • #MondayBlogs,  Self Talk

    The Single Best Writing Advice (Too Bad I Don’t Always Follow It)

    We’ve heard it before, write what you know. Or, write every day. Or, READ! READ! READ! And while that is all very good advice, and you should follow it fervently, it’s still not the best.One of the best pieces of advice I was given in college was this: Never compare yourself to others.  If you do, you’ll compare their strengths to your weaknesses, and you’ll always be the loser. When I compare myself to other writers, it doesn’t do me a bit of good. I either pick up some frothy bonnet romance and throw it across the room, puffing myself up with thoughts of superiority. My books will have more meaning! I will be more…

  • Author Profile,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    Writing Like a Martial Artist A Guest Post by Christine Hennebury

    What could be further apart than the physical effort of martial arts and the mental effort of writing? They don’t really have much in common. Martial arts help you to train your body to react without having to think, while writing is about getting very deep inside your own head. Yet, when I bring the focus I’ve learned in Taekwon-Do and apply it to my writing, the words come a lot more easily, and that’s not the only way that studying martial arts has made me a better writer. Lesson One: My biggest opponent is myself When I got my black belt in March, 2014, I felt like I had…

  • Self Talk

    How To Love Yourself When You’re Weak (A List For SuperMom Types Who Get Sick)

    No one is as hard on me as me. The context of this idea came to me 13 days into an illness. It wasn’t the flu, a sinus infection, an ear infection or bronchitis.  I didn’t have the fever to warrant antibiotics and I didn’t have enough symptoms to make even a trip to the ER worth it. I knew they’d say, “yup, your ears are stuffed up”.  I knew that the treatment would be a combination of Mucinex and Benadryl and Motrin for pain and rest. Lots of fluids. You know when you’re playing Wii Golf and you hit the ball way to hard? That was the noise I…

  • Motivation,  Self Talk

    The Nine Things You Say To Yourself That Could Change Everything

    What does it mean to Love Ourselves? I have  a very wise friend that I meet with on a regular basis. This friend, Melissa, has caught me being very hard on myself and saying aloud things like, I’m not very good at that. Or, I got it wrong again. Or, this means that I’m not good enough.  She’s challenged me to pay attention to those negative thoughts. She even asked me what the ratio was, the good, encouraging things compared to the negative things. I didn’t know what she meant. I was going to say, “Ratio? Is that math?  I’m not very good at math!” But then she explained. For every single…

  • #EthicalAuthor,  Author Profile,  Self Talk

    Love Your Reader, Love Your Art, Love Yourself a Guest Post by Jude Knight

    When this post goes live, Valentine’s Day will be right around the corner, which is good, because this post is about love. Not romantic love, of course. Did you know that the Feast of St Valentine originally commemorated two or three different saints, and was associated with the beginning of Spring? The connection between Valentine and romantic love is only a few hundred years old (700, to be exact). Before the English poet Geoffrey Chaucer made the link, the love that we celebrated on the Feast of St Valentine was not romantic love, but the love given by one who serves. As writers, we serve readers and, in a sense,…

  • Motivation,  Observation,  Self Talk

    Five Questions To Ask Yourself When You Get All Contemplative This Time of Year

    Asking writers to analyze themselves is like asking a cat to be aloof, shed fur and practice a condescension while sleeping on your face. It’s just what we do. This time of year is often a time when everyone is reflecting, summarizing or evaluating what has happened in the last year. It’s not a bad practice if we truly learn from the past. I’m not convinced that society as a whole does, but writers can and should.  Here are a few questions to ask yourself at this time of year, when you’re reflecting on how 2014 treated you as a writer and how you treated yourself. 1. Did I become…

  • Discipline,  Inspiration,  Motivation,  Self Talk

    Five Things That Stand In The Way Of Writers & Their Goals A Guest Post By Sarah Moran

    I received an email from my daughter’s swim team with a list of things that keep swimmers from achieving their dreams and goals.  It inspired me to create this list …tweaked for us…authors, writers, novelists Five things that stand in the way of writers and the goals they yearn to achieve: You act like a stubborn toddler and downright refuse to learn the lessons given (and painfully necessary to progress). You’ve been told more than once that writers write.  Butt in chair.  Writers read.  If you don’t have time to write (or read) then you’re not a writer.  But, yet, you still make the excuses and watch the hours upon…

  • Motivation,  Self Talk,  Work-In-Progress

    The Terrible Things My Work-In-Progress Says To Me

       Why Is Writing So Hard Sometimes? I have a work-in-progress and I think it hates me. Every day I sit down with this project and put in at least an hour. When I sit down with it, I feel it come alive. It is a non-fiction book, so it’s not like it’s alive in the sense of genre or character. It’s alive with the ease (or lack of ease) that comes with the drafting and sculpting of each chapter, the way it seems to fight against me.  Some days, it is sterile and compliant; I’m the boss. I put one word in front of the other, much like writing a…